Advancing Women Podcast

Bold, Audacious Goals

There is NOT an expiration on our goals. It’s our lives and our goals, so it should be on our timeline. We must be mindful though, that our timeline isn’t when things get “less busy” or when “you’re ready.” Here’s the thing warriors, things will NEVER not be busy. You will not likely ever find that elusive “more time” and there is no “perfect time.”

We don’t want our goals to be on someone else’s timeline, but we also don’t want the internal saboteur to talk us out of moving forward with our goals. Because warriors, you were meant to have bold, audacious, meaningful goals!

In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I talk about WHY we should have BOLD, RADICAL, AUDACIOUS goals and how to recognize and overcome the internal and external barriers that keep us from moving towards our goals.

 

Episodes referenced in this episode:

Bold Radical Audacious Goals: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bold-radical-audacious-goals-b-r-a-g/id1569849100?i=1000546833576

Conquering Resistance: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conquering-resistance/id1569849100?i=1000559405192

New Year’s Resolutions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/afraid-you-wont-keep-new-years-resolutions-make-them-anyway/id1569849100?i=1000591952163

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Afraid You Won’t Keep New Years’ Resolutions? Make Them Anyway!

Happy New Year! In this first Advancing Women Podcast episode of 2023, we’re talking fresh starts, blank slates, and resolutions.

Research shows that the most popular New Year’s resolutions are about self-improvement (living healthier getting happier, improving relationships, meeting goals.) Yet research also shows that less than 10% of people actually reach their goals. So, this reality leaves many of us questioning the point of it all – why even bother? This episode is about the good that can come from hope and inspiration. Having goals, living with intention, and a desire to grow and improve, are good things, important things that can lead to more happiness, fulfillment, and purpose.

#tunein to better understand the advantages of resolutions and how we can benefit from shifting our #mindset from goals to systems and habits. This episode is about deemphasizing the goal in favor of focusing on the habits and systems that help us move toward our goals!

 

Links to episodes referenced:

Bold Radical Audacious Goals (B.R.A.G). Advancing Women Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bold-radical-audacious-goals-b-r-a-g/id1569849100?i=1000546833576

Achieving Goals: Mindset, Skillset, Toolset. Advancing Women Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/achieving-goals-mindset-skillset-toolset/id1569849100?i=1000548184285

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Have a Hygge Holiday!

As women, we can find ourselves feeling more stressed with all the holiday prep that so often disproportionately drains us of our time and our calm. We feel like if we don’t do all the things, others will be disappointed, or things will fall through the cracks. So, we do everything in our power to mediate that, often at great personal cost to our comfort and joy.

This episode focuses on YOUR comfort, joy, calm, and cozy. Learn more in this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast about the Danish practice of Hygge (coziness & comfort) and the art of joyful living. For all you do to care and do for others, take a little time this holiday season to get cozy, you deserve it!

Tidings of Hygge & Joy Resources

The Year of Living Danishly: Uncovering the Secrets of the World's Happiest Country by Helen Russell

The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik Wiking

The HYGGE manifesto https://medium.com/10-bullets-100-words-book-summary/10-bullets-100-words-book-the-little-book-of-hygge-by-meik-wiking-3656e2b8035c

Joyful: The surprising power of ordinary things to create extraordinary happiness by Ingrid Fetell Lee

The Joy of Less: A Minimalist Guide to Declutter, Organize, and Simplify

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All-Or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is, and How to Stop It!

In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, we're tackling cognitive distortions. A cognitive distortion is an assumption we make based on minimal evidence, or without considering the evidence. It is an exaggerated or irrational thought pattern that causes us to perceive reality inaccurately. We all engage in cognitive distortions.

We can overgeneralize and interpret one negative event or mistake as a pattern of defeat. We can mentally filter discounting our positive qualities and accomplishments and dwelling on the negatives. We jump to conclusions “mind-reading” others’ interpretation of our actions assuming others are judging us negatively, even when there is no definitive evidence. We can magnify or minimize our experiences blowing negative experiences or mistakes out of proportion and minimizing positive experiences and contributions. We can internalize blame for things we weren’t responsible for.

AND…one of the most common and potentially hindering cognitive distortions that we engage in is the all-or-nothing distortion. Looking at things in absolutes. Black and white versus shades of gray. We are all susceptible to all-or-nothing thinking. We easily recognize this when we’re talking about food and dieting, but we don’t always see it in other areas of our lives or our work. How one mistake or misstep can lead to us harping on small mistakes or leave us feeling like we might as well just throw in the towel.

Here’s the good news though. There ARE steps we can take to combat cognitive distortions. In this episode, I talk about how we can begin to identify cognitive distortions and put ourselves in a position to shift our mindset in ways that serve our emotional happiness and advancement.

References

Bollen, J., Ten Thij, M., Breithaupt, F., Barron, A. T., Rutter, L. A., Lorenzo-Luaces, L., & Scheffer, M. (2021). Historical language records reveal a surge of cognitive distortions in recent decades. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 118(30), e2102061118.

Abatecola, G., Caputo, A., & Cristofaro, M. (2018). Reviewing cognitive distortions in managerial decision making: toward an integrative co-evolutionary framework. Journal of Management Development.

https://www.betterup.com/blog/all-or-nothing-thinking

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Surviving Workplace Bullying with Zenica Chatman

According to a survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute, one in four American workers have said that they have dealt with workplace bullying. Too often, when women experience workplace discrimination and bullying, we internalize that we are the problem and that does NOT serve us.
In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I speak with certified coach, speaker, and anti-workforce bullying advocate Zenica Chatman to talk about how women can stand up against workplace bullying and help create work environments that are safe and equitable. Zenica authored the Fast Company article Workplace Bullying Eroded my Confidence at Work. Here's how I Recovered. She is the creator of Surviving Corporate Detox group coaching program which helps women establish a healthy relationship with work putting us back into the driver’s seat of our careers by helping us create an unbreakable attitude and unshakeable confidence no matter how toxic the workplace culture is!

#tunein and get unstuck! #advancingwomenpodast

Reference:

https://www.amazon.com/Inclusion-Purpose-Intersectional-Approach-Belonging/dp/0262046555

https://hbr.org/2022/09/the-psychological-toll-of-being-the-only-woman-of-color-at-work

Fast Company Article, By Zenica Chatman: Workplace bullying eroded my confidence at work. Here’s how I recovered: https://www.fastcompany.com/90793262/workplace-bullying-eroded-my-confidence-at-work-heres-how-i-recovered

Learn more about Zenica Chatman and her Surviving Corporate Detox Program:

https://www.zenicachatman.com/

Surviving Corporate Program https://www.zenicachatman.com/group-coaching

https://www.fastcompany.com/90793262/workplace-bullying-eroded-my-confidence-at-work-heres-how-i-recovered

Unlearn and Restore with Alicia Jabbar

I often say when you sit with warriors, the conversation is different! We all need both challenge and support to thrive in our careers and our lives, but this is especially important for women. As women, we face unique biases and barriers that make #mentors, #sponsors, #coaches, and #community even more important. “When women connect in groups, they experience a sense of validation and inspiration that breaks down the barriers limiting their fully expressed leadership in the world.”

There is wisdom in women’s shared experiences. There is power in the tribe!

I am very excited to talk with guest Alicia Jabbar in this episode. Alicia is a coach and facilitator who's designed and delivered more than one hundred women's, leadership programs to dozens of organizations and the public. She is an expert on coaching women working in male-dominated industries. Don’t miss this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast where we talk about unlearning limiting social conditioning and restoring the nature of who we are as leaders.

Reference:

Learn more about Alicia Jabbar https://www.linkedin.com/in/ajabbar/

To learn more about Alicia’s free November 17th workshop click here:  https://www.aliciajabbar.com/womens-leadership-collective

Alicia is launching a new group program in early 2023. Sign up for her newsletter on her website to learn when that becomes available.  https://www.aliciajabbar.com/womens-leadership

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The Dark Side of Beauty with Schonte Hamilton

“We live in an age of ugly beauty. Reverence for beauty is just an escape from reality, it is the perpetual adolescent in us refusing to accept a flawed world” ~ author, Nancy Etcoff (Survival of the Prettiest).

Research shows that society has long impacted our standards of beauty, playing a role in affecting beauty trends, body image, and self-esteem, and increasingly this is exacerbated by social media.

In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I talk with actress, singer, and songwriter Schonte Hamilton. Schonte is passionate about promoting body positivity and acceptance. She is the CEO of F.A.W.O.C. (For All Women of Color), a company that empowers women of all colors, in the world of entertainment.

We explore deeply entrenched beauty standards and consequences including digitized dysmorphia and the dangerous, even life-threatening lengths women go to in attaining unrealistic beauty standards. We talk about money, power, capitalism, and patriarchy  in a multi-billion-dollar industry that creates images of beauty and then “peddles them as opium for the female masses.” Don’t miss this important and timely conversation.

Reference

The Dark Side of Beauty: http://schontehamilton.reclaim.hosting/Visualcommunicationproject/

Henriques, M., & Patnaik, D. (2020). Social media and its effects on beauty. In Beauty-Cosmetic Science, Cultural Issues and Creative Developments. IntechOpen.

Verrastro, V., Liga, F., Cuzzocrea, F., & Gugliandolo, M. C. (2020). Fear the Instagram: beauty stereotypes, body image, and Instagram use in a sample of male and female adolescents. Qwerty-Open and Interdisciplinary Journal of Technology, Culture, and Education, 15(1), 31-49.

https://www.intechopen.com/chapters/73271

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Cultivating Creativity with Illustrator Heather Harris

It takes courage to express the things you are passionate about and to transcend the limits of your comfort zone. Connecting to your creativity is connecting to your courage.

Creativity, like courage, is energy with which you can connect. It is an essential part of who you are, AND it is a practice. Too often people think about creative people or the arts as being endowed from heaven, but as our guest today, illustrator and creator, Heather Harris says “That's not true. You were created, so you are creative!” Don’t miss this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast with artist and illustrator, Heather Harris here to help us cultivate creativity through developing a creative practice that fits into our busy lives.

Where there is creativity, there is courage, but perhaps more importantly, where there is creativity, there is joy. Hone your creative skills through a creative practice that will open you up to more joy and delight through creativity.

References:

https://heatherlynnharris.com/

Heather’s Pinterest Boards https://www.pinterest.com/heather7667/

https://www.instagram.com/heatherharris.illustration/

Heather’s picture books can be found on her website and are also available on Amazon!

https://www.psychreg.org/creativity-is-courage/

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The 4 Ps Advancement Model™ for Women

The advancing women podcast is where empathy meets pragmatism and today's episode is heavy on pragmatism. As ambitious, warrior women, we spend a lot of time and effort working toward professional goals and advancement. Unfortunately, there are many inequitable, sometimes invisible barriers and bias patterns that create an unlevel playing field for women because the system was not designed by or for us. We can't keep playing the game and expecting the outcomes to change. We must change the game and find ways to interrupt the inequitable rules of the game in ways that help serve us.

Enter the 4 Ps Advancement Model™

Necessity is indeed the mother of invention and the best practice advice women have been given is flawed. Mainly because it focuses on fixing women, and we as women are neither broken, nor defective. We don’t need to be fixed. The system is broken and needs to be fixed, and we need to level the playing field. That is why I created this model which can be a highly effective tool for women in transcending and thriving despite inequity and bias.

The 4 Ps Advancement Model™ focuses on problems, patterns, processes, and proficiencies. Don’t miss this episode where I will apply the model to some of the most common biases and barriers women encounter based on evidence-based scientific research.

Despite the host of inequities, biases, and barriers that create an unlevel playing field for women it is possible that we can have the last word in the end if we adopt a mindset and behaviors that better serve us. This model is meant to give you the tools and process you need to define and overcome the real problems that keep far too many qualified, brilliant warrior women from advancing.

Reference:

Antifragility, Resilience, & Grit: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/antifragility-resilience-grit/id1569849100?i=1000538998137

The 4 Ps Advancement Model™ https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/4ps-advancement-model-problem-patterns-process-proficiency/

What Works for Women at Work https://womensleadership.stanford.edu/whatworks

Williams, J.C. & Dempsey, R. (2014). What Works for Women at Work. Four Patterns Working Women Need to Know. NYU Press.

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Compassionate Self-Improvement with Wellness Warrior Erica Golub

September is Self-Improvement Month, a time to reflect on all you've accomplished this year and to think about which goals you still want or need to work toward. Self-Improvement Month encourages us to make conscious and intentional efforts to improve ourselves.

In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, we approach self-improvement from a more compassionate and self-kind approach. Let’s think about the improvements we need to make, to be better to ourselves and at prioritizing OUR needs. Don’t miss this episode with esteemed guest; Wellness Warrior and certified yoga, mindfulness, and meditation practitioner Erica Golub as we talk about getting back to our center and realigning with our truest selves.

 

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Previous Advancing Women Podcast Episodes Referenced in this Episode:

Warriors Need Love (and Self-Care) Too! https://open.spotify.com/episode/6uTy7qmvWJzWt6qpGdYk78?si=5510b577898a4909

‎Advancing Women Podcast: Warriors Need Love (and Self-Care) Too! on Apple Podcasts