Advancing Women Podcast

Advice That Works for Women! Center Coach Create™

As women, we are often faced with unique barriers and then contradictory advice. This episode is about better understanding the biases that produce those barriers so that we can interrupt them and ditch the contradictory advice with strategies that work FOR WOMEN.

Too often the best practice advice that women receive doesn't work for us because it wasn't designed by or for us! So, we end up internalizing the fault and the flaw when ANY advice grounded in women as not enough, flawed, or defective is advice we don’t need and should not listen to!

It's not your fault but it is your problem. So #tunein to hear about a #bold #audacious new community launching this year: Center Coach Create™

https://centercoachcreate.com/

Center Coach Create™ is a personal and professional development company grounded in #wellness powered by #knowledge and manifested as #creative #courage.

Don’t miss this #newepisode where we show how Center Coach Create™ is the remedy to advice and strategies that don’t work for women. Join wellness Warrior Erica Golub and Creative Warrior Heather Harris as we talk Center and the practice of stillness, reflection, and nourish; Coach and the practice of pause, strategic response, and utilizing your community; and Create and the practice of believing in your creativity, establishing a creative practice, and embracing imperfection.

So much useful information packed into this episode, you won’t want to miss it! #tunein

References:

Center Coach Create™ https://centercoachcreate.com/

America Ferrara Barbie Clip:
https://youtu.be/CBqlDWHkdHk?si=ruPbzkJKfZ5QPtU_

J.Williams:  https://www.ted.com/talks/joan_c_williams_why_corporate_diversity_programs_fail_and_how_small_tweaks_can_have_big_impact?

Fortune: https://fortune.com/2015/10/28/women-career-advancement/

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This Is the Year for Bold, Audacious Goals!

Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Center Coach Create™ a personal and professional development company that helps ambitious women develop their mindset, skillset, and toolset with evidence-based strategies designed by and for women, Center Coach Create™ can help you get unstuck so you can transcend and thrive. Learn more at https://centercoachcreate.com/

 

Let's let 2024 be a year for bold, audacious goals. Let's get unstuck, start the thing, and overcome resistance BUT, let's also remember that there is NOT an expiration on our goals. It’s our lives and our goals, so it should be on our timeline. We must be mindful though, that our timeline isn’t when things get “less busy” or when “you’re ready.” Here’s the thing warriors, things will NEVER not be busy. You will never likely find that elusive “more time” and there is no “perfect time.”

 We don’t want our goals to be on someone else’s timeline, but we also don’t want the internal saboteur to talk us out of moving forward with our goals. Because warriors, you were meant to have bold, audacious, meaningful goals! In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I talk about WHY we should have BOLD, RADICAL, AUDACIOUS goals and how to recognize and overcome the internal and external barriers that keep us from moving towards our goals. Here’s the great news…you don’t have to do it alone.

 

Episodes referenced in this episode:

Fear of Failure

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fear-of-failure/id1569849100?i=1000527184290

 

Teach Girls Bravery AND Teach Boys Empathy

https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/lets-teach-girls-bravery-and-teach-boys-empathy/id1569849100?i=1000576175167

 

Conquering Resistance:

‎Advancing Women Podcast: Conquering Resistance on Apple Podcasts

 

 

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Less Chaos, More Comfort & Joy

As women, we can find ourselves feeling more stressed with all the holiday prep that so often disproportionately drains us of our time and our calm. We feel like if we don’t do all the things, others will be disappointed, or things will fall through the cracks. So, we do everything in our power to mediate that, often at great personal cost to our comfort and joy.

This episode focuses on YOUR comfort, joy, calm, and cozy. Learn more in this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast about the Danish practice of Hygge (coziness & comfort) and the art of joyful living. For all you do to care and do for others, take a little time this holiday season to get cozy, you deserve it!

Tidings of Hygge & Joy Resources

The Year of Living Danishly: Uncovering the Secrets of the World's Happiest Country by Helen Russell

The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik Wiking

The HYGGE manifesto https://medium.com/10-bullets-100-words-book-summary/10-bullets-100-words-book-the-little-book-of-hygge-by-meik-wiking-3656e2b8035c

Joyful: The surprising power of ordinary things to create extraordinary happiness by Ingrid Fetell Lee

The Joy of Less: A Minimalist Guide to Declutter, Organize, and Simplify

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Warrior Gift Giving: Women Supporting Women

Did you know that although women make up half the population, research shows we control or influence most consumer spending (more than 80% of all purchases!)

Why then don't more businesses large and small think of women first when creating new products and services AND how dare these companies that benefit so greatly from the decisions women make to purchase their products not create more equity for women within the organization's leadership?

Tis the season…to flex our consumer power and help support women and women’s advancement. This episode encourages us all to think intentionally and strategically about the choices we make with our dollars and how our choices can impact gender equity. Shop your conscience this holiday season and don't fall into the trap of believing that you alone can't make a difference. As Vincent van Gogh said, great things are done by a series of small things brought together!

#supportwomen #sheconomy #womensupportingwomen #supportwomeninbusiness

Resources:

Gender Diversity Index https://www.equilar.com/reports/74-q1-2020-equilar-gender-diversity-index.html

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Stop Telling Us We Have Imposter Syndrome

Have you ever felt Imposter Syndrome? Then #tunein because this is the episode for you!

Women in the workplace and in society are too often “problematized” rather than addressing very real biases and barriers we face. We are told if we want to succeed…to belong…we have to fit in and research shows that fitting in is the opposite of belonging because we are expected to change who we are rather than be who we are. We are told to be our authentic selves then feel consequences when we do.

This episode addresses the three main themes in the imposter syndrome: 1. Not believing you deserve the success you have achieved. 2. A feeling of fraudulence about that success. 3. A feeling of dread that you will be “found out”. But we will also consider context when we are discussing imposter syndrome. Although research has shown that both men and women can experience the phenomenon – it is women, who tend to be the focus of the advice, workshops, books, and professional development initiatives aimed at overcoming the problem. It is unfair to make this a women problem, BUT we should consider how women and persons of color disproportionately experience many workforce biases that HAVE contributed to the problem.

Let’s talk about ending the narratives around women and Imposter Syndrome so there is less talk of fixing women at work and more fixing the places women work!

Reference:

https://www.ted.com/talks/jodi_ann_burey_the_myth_of_bringing_your_full_authentic_self_to_work?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare https://hbr.org/2021/02/stop-telling-women-they-have-imposter-syndrome

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The Seeds We Water Are the Seeds That Grow

We are all so busy juggling so many competing priorities for our time and energy. Careers, families, relationships, goals, aspirations, personal growth, wellness, and self-care. It can all begin to feel like too much. Where do we put our energy? Which seeds do we water?  This episode is about focus and ensuring that energy flows where attention goes.

It’s not just about planting and watering the right seeds, it’s about dealing with those seeds that we didn’t even plant (the social conditioning that doesn’t serve us, that negatively impacts how we think, feel, and act). The pruning of the weeds to support the right growth in our gardens (our lives). if we water positive thoughts, they will bring us joy and optimism but if we water negative thoughts… the mental weeds, they can bring anxiety and self-doubt.  This episode is about watering the seeds that will blossom into the life we want and starving the weeds that don’t.

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References

The Parable of the Two Wolves https://theacademy.sdsu.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/two-wolves-cherokee-story.pdf

The Power of Positive Affirmations https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-of-positive-affirmations-sitting-with-warriors/id1569849100?i=1000626021600

Less Hustle & Grind, More Alignment & Balance

Too often culturally we glorify the hustle and grind. The truth is though, we all pay a price for overwork including stress, burnout, and less healthy emotional well-being. Especially for women.

This episode of the #advancingwomenpodcast addresses the extreme work model, presenteeism, and a 24/7 work culture where high intensity is the norm, where everything is an emergency, and where every problem is critical. A culture of constant accessibility and availability has become the productivity standard. But is it necessary? If you want less #hustle and #grind and more #balanced and #alignment then this is the episode for you! #tunein

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What Mansplaining IS and What It Is NOT (And How to Make It Stop!)

Mansplaining is more than condescension or interrupting, it’s where condescension intersects with power and privilege. Mansplaining is a condescending explanation by members of socially, culturally, or legally privileged groups in their interactions with those who don’t hold the same power and privilege.

In this episode, we deconstruct Androcentric Bias (the assumption that the male view is the norm or default), and Androcentrism (the tendency to center society around men’s needs and priorities).

This episode addresses where mansplaining is most prevalent (which domains) and provides some new solutions to a tiresome old problem.  It’s also a great episode for male allies who may be asking; how do I recognize mansplaining so I can be an upstander? #tunein

Episodes referenced in this episode:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tightrope-bias-the-likeability-dilemma/id1569849100?i=1000570385546

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/second-generation-gender-bias/id1569849100?i=1000524554582

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Additional References:

Mansplaining Explained in One Chart: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20180727-mansplaining-explained-in-one-chart

Am I Mansplaining Chart? https://images.app.goo.gl/XxbgA6JBbBYjwosF6

Kaplan, S. (2019). Mansplaining: New solutions to a tiresome old problem. The Conversation Online: https://theconversation.com/mansplaining-new-solutions-to-a-tiresome-old-problem-120400

Bailey, A. H., LaFrance, M., & Dovidio, J. F. (2019). Is man the measure of all things? A social cognitive account of androcentrism. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 23(4), 307-331.

When and HOW to Say NO. Setting Boundaries in Work and in Life!

Too often we as women take on an unfair share of responsibilities and then are blamed for saying yes to every request when we are too busy and feel overwhelmed. But… if we don’t do it, who will? This episode  demystifies why it is so difficult for us as women to say no (hint: it’s not your fault, but it is your problem!)

I explore with compassion (and a lot of evidence) why saying no, while difficult for many people, can be especially difficult for women. I address the very real patterns of bias, social norms, and expectations that contribute to why women often find saying no so challenging AND we go beyond the why and into the how.

 

Want to know how to create healthy boundaries,  control our own narratives, and take back authority over our time and well-being?  Then #tunein You won’t want to miss this one!

 

Episodes referenced in this episode:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kicking-the-over-apologizing-habit/id1569849100?i=1000617617515

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-year-anniversary-episode-its-still-not-your-fault/id1569849100?i=1000615774652

 

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The Paradox of Meritocracy

Can meritocracy make things fairer? Does it level the playing field?

A meritocracy is a system where power and advancement are granted to individuals based solely on talent, effort, ability, and achievement. That we will be evaluated based solely on performance as measured through objective criteria and demonstrated achievement.

The problem is the premise of meritocracy. The assumption is that evaluations in the workforce are objective, despite research and knowledge that we as human beings, social beings with different experiences, are incapable of being completely objective. So then, if we know that, we should be more realistic about the limitations of meritocracy principles in organizations.

Indeed, research overwhelmingly confirms that much of our evaluation in hiring and promoting is NOT based on purely objective criteria, despite our utopian belief and desire for this to be the case.

So, this episode of the #advancingwomenpodcast holds the idea of meritocracy and women’s advancement up the scrutiny of the scientific knowledge of human behavior, biases, and blind spots, as well as the erroneous assumptions that guide meritocratic ideologies which ultimately serve to hinder women’s advancement. #tunein

References

Staniscuaski, F. (2023). The science meritocracy myth devalues women. Science, 379(6639), 1308-1308.

van Dijk, H., Kooij, D., Karanika-Murray, M., De Vos, A., & Meyer, B. (2020). Meritocracy a myth? A multilevel perspective of how social inequality accumulates through work. Organizational Psychology Review, 10(3-4), 240-269.

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/01/the-myth-of-meritocracy-according-to-michael-sandel/

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