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Why you shouldn’t always give 100%

Instead of always aiming for 100%, how about focusing on balance? How about embracing progress over perfection?

The "all or nothing" mindset, always pushing to give 100%, may actually be standing in the way of living our best lives. Consider this your permission to let go of this unnecessary pressure and reject the constant brainwashing.

During this hectic time of year, it’s easy to feel like life is nothing more than an endless to-do list. This #newepisode is all about breaking that cycle. Life is messy and imperfect, and sometimes doing what we can—rather than striving for perfection—is not only enough, but it also creates the space we need to pause and prioritize. Let’s embrace progress over perfection and make room for peace, comfort, and joy.

Previous episodes referenced in this episode:

Advice to my 20-Something Self https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/advice-to-my-20-something-self/id1569849100?i=1000665941516

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Complicated Girls Suck with Dr. Tara Walker

Have you ever been written off as too complicated? Too emotional? These labels may not seem like a big deal, but they can serve as  a way to push aside our difficulties or invalidate our feelings. If you have ever felt not enough AND too much all at once, then this is the episode for you!

Having your emotions policed is not a healthy experience. Being gaslighted is not a healthy experience. In this episode of the #advancingwomenpodcast I am here with Dr. Tara Walker to detangle and deconstruct the complicated woman stereotype. #tunein

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/tara-walker-phd-2b99008

https://www.sbu.edu/academics/faculty/walker-tara-g

https://taragracewalker.com/

Supporting Women Creators This Holiday Season (and Beyond!)

As we approach the holidays, this episode is a call to action. I encourage us all to think more intentionally about the choices we make with our dollars and our time. As women, we hold a great deal of consumer power,  and this is a great time to wield that power in the support of other women.

I’m talking about women creators, entrepreneurs, women-owned businesses, and businesses that support women! The holiday season is a great time to be intentional in our actions.  It is an opportunity to #support #amplify and #investinwomen

This #newepisode is about #warriorwomen coming together to champion one another's artistic, entrepreneurial, creative projects. Let’s help increase the visibility of creators and celebrate #womensachievments #womensupportingwomen is #powerful  #tunein #advancingwomenpodcast #persisterhood #womensupportingwomen

For more on the creators highlighted in this episode:

Anna Michele Bulszewicz

AMC Weekly Newsletter https://www.annamcommunications.com/blog

3 Cs Mindfully Speaking Model https://www.annamcommunications.com/new-page-1

Jen Lefforge (Joyful Living with Jen Lefforge)

https://www.youtube.com/@JoyfulLivingwithJenLefforge

https://jenlefforge.com/

https://jenlefforge.com/all-of-my-posts/

Heather Lynn Harris

https://heatherlynnharris.com/

Something to Sing About https://heatherlynnharris.com/books/

Links to previous podcasts mentioned in this episode:

Mindful Communication with Anna Bulszewiczhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mindful-communication/id1569849100?i=1000675707131

Delivering Big Creativity with Heather Lynn Harris https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/delivering-big-creativity-small-steps-practices/id1569849100?i=1000647147881

A Grown Up Gap Year with YouTuber Jen Lefforge https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-grown-up-gap-year-with-youtuber-jen-lefforge/id1569849100?i=1000654737177

Mindful Communication

#tunein for this dynamic and pragmatic interview on mindful communication and emotional intelligence with communications strategist Anna Bulszewicz. We dive deep into communication, community, and connection.

 

Let’s stop calling communication skills and emotional intelligence "soft skills.” These are ESSENTIAL skills that women tend to be exceptionally good at, so let’s make sure we are acknowledging, owning, honing, and touting these super skills!

 

Podcast referenced in this episode (Let’s teach girls bravery and teach boys empathy)

 

iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/lets-teach-girls-bravery-and-teach-boys-empathy/id1569849100?i=1000576175167

Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/10oW7FgzU65qrJ5JAsMDrc?si=gCQUw6hxR7GtYpP_f1r2TA

For more info on Anna Bulszewicz and Anna Michele Communications (AMC):

Website: https://www.annamcommunications.com/

Blog: https://www.annamcommunications.com/blog/woman

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annabulszewicz/

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The Season of the Witch

“We are the granddaughters of the witches you weren't able to burn”

 ~ Tish Thawer, The Witches of Blackbrook

 #tunein to this #newepisode of the Advancing Women Podcast where in this #Halloween season, we set aside our stereotypical descriptions and depictions of witches, and instead look to appreciate, how generations of activists have reclaimed the witch archetype to resist patriarchal control and stand up to injustice. Let the Season of the Witch symbolize our warrior power and resistance.

This episode explores the witch ethos, and how we can point to witch hunts as defining moments of injustice, sexism, and misogyny. It’s about the historical context of witch hunts in terms of the societal attitudes and beliefs that fueled the persecution of women. How accusations of witchcraft were used as a way to control and suppress women who defied traditional gender roles…and how we still tend to see and treat powerful women today.

References:

Joan Williams Tightrope Bias https://gender.stanford.edu/news/what-works-women-work

Tightrope Bias & the Likability Dilemma https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tightrope-bias-the-likeability-dilemma/id1569849100?i=1000570385546

In Defense of Witches: The Legacy of the Witch Hunts and Why Women Are Still on Trial by  Mona Chollet https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250272225/indefenseofwitches

The Witches of Blackbrook by Tish Thawer http://www.tishthawer.com/the-witches-of-blackbrook.html

Donovan Season of the Witch  https://youtu.be/GU35oCHGhJ0?si=F8NoU831_jbOvVJ5

Lana Del Rey Season of the Witch https://youtu.be/tQbTyeTMa4M?si=ipH-192TJ56m4gCI

Joan Jett Season of the Witch https://youtu.be/YKYcGFexI6U?si=ajHLtwfr9R7Lt7Mq

Emotional Intelligence: An Antifragility Mindset

“The wind extinguishes a candle and energizes fire.” ~Taleb (2014)

In this episode, I’m talking about Antifragility, a concept even more powerful than resiliency and grit. It’s about overcoming. Harnessing the wind and being the fire that is energized.

As Nietzsche (and Kanye) have said…that that don’t kill me…can only make me stronger…”

Antifragility, resilience, and grit are valuable tools in combating gender inequity so we can transcend and thrive. Despite the barriers that create an unlevel playing field for far too many talented, highly qualified women, it is possible that WE can have the last word in the end if we adopt an antifragility mindset.

#tunein to harness your emotional intelligence superpowers!

 #antifragility #grit #resilience #transcend #thrive

Reference

The 4Ps Advancement Model™ https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/4ps-advancement-model-problem-patterns-process-proficiency/

Nassim Nicholas Taleb (2014) Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder. Random House Publishing

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Weaponized Gratitude & Gratitude Shaming

Do you ever feel guilty for not feeling more grateful?  Guess what? This is a classic example of “it’s not your fault, but it is your problem.”

Have you noticed an increase in using positivity and gratitude as a means of control and superiority? A weaponizing of gratitude where it’s being wielded to minimize someone's experience? In this episode, we explore weaponized gratitude and gratitude shaming. Our feelings are valid! No problem is "too small to matter” and being told to be "grateful” when we are upset isn’t helpful or kind, it’s manipulative and invalidating.

“Enforced gratitude is weaponized gratitude. It's not helpful and, very often, it's harmful. So, let's start opting out.” ~Becky Mollenkamp

We are human beings, not squirrels. We are complex, and beautifully complicated, and can feel many things simultaneously. Gratitude is powerful, but it is a gift we give ourselves. It’s a tool for creating inner peace, not a weapon to be wielded by others to manipulate our feelings or behaviors. Let’s dive into this important and timely topic.

#newepisode #tunein #weaponizedgratitude #gratitudeshaming

Reference

https://beckymollenkamp.com/weaponized-gratitude/

https://susanarinderle.medium.com/be-grateful-but-dont-weaponize-gratitude-fe3e09157264

https://www.talklife.com/post/let-s-talk-about-gratitude-shaming

Previous podcast episode referenced in this episode

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/toxic-positivity-versus-mental-contrasting/id1569849100?i=1000577719994

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Comparison is Kryptonite, Let’s Ditch It!

In this episode, we talk about social comparison and how we can fall into the trap of valuing our personal and social worth by assessing how we compare to others. Whether it is an upward or downward comparison, if we allow comparison of others to dictate how we view our own lives it can steal our joy. Comparison is a Kryptonite that often makes us want more while simultaneously seeing ourselves as less.  “A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms” ~Zen Shin

 #tunein to this episode of the #advancingwomenpodcast to learn how to ditch comparison and stop allowing it to steal our joy.

Podcast episodes referenced in this episode:

Fear of Failure https://podcasts.apple.com/gw/podcast/fear-of-failure/id1569849100?i=1000527184290&l=fr-FR

Toxic Positivity https://podcasts.apple.com/gw/podcast/toxic-positivity-versus-mental-contrasting/id1569849100?i=1000577719994&l=fr-FR

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Advice To My 20-Something Self!

I’m practicing what I preach in this episode and offering myself some grace. Enjoy a reposting (with a new introduction) of one of my most popular, and most downloaded episodes ever. It’s all about 50/20 vision…what advice in my 50s would I give my 20-something self?

We've all heard the adage “Hindsight is 20/20”. It's an expression that suggests it's easier to understand something after it has already happened, that we have a level of clarity when we look back at a situation, event, or decision.

This episode in from November 2021 and was my 25^th episode (crazy now that we’re 100 plus episodes in!) and it dropped on my 50th birthday. It’s all about the wisdom and clarity that comes with being in our 50s. What my 50-year-old self wishes my 20-year-old self knew. I invited my two best friends, my most trusted warrior tribe to join me on what ended up being an incredible group mentoring session. It’s a combined 150 years of experience navigating the biases and barriers we as warrior women face.

We talk about choosing what serves you and leaving the rest behind, embracing fear, holding on loosely, learning versus unlearning, having an “AND” mindset versus either or, and so much more. “Be humble enough to learn the rules, thoughtful enough to evaluate how the rules serve you, and brave enough to break the rules.”

Whether in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, or beyond, this episode is for you!

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Reference:

https://www.lifehack.org/500575/a-letter-to-my-50-year-old-self-on-grace-and-getting-older

When Dads Do What Moms Do

How often are you asked, “How do you juggle it all?”  If you’re a working mom, the answer is probably OFTEN. If you’re a working dad, the answer is probably NEVER. Research confirms that dads working outside the home are often praised for being good fathers while moms who work outside the home are often judged.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated at how dads get a pat on the back whenever they are out with their kids, while moms often get judged, this episode will hit home! It’s time to detangle having it all from DOING it all!

We should all be outraged by the disparity in expectations that can create more work for moms and minimize the incredibly vital role fathers play. Let’s interrupt that gender-biased default because it’s not good for women, it’s not good for men, and it’s not good for families. #tunein

References:

https://www.thelily.com/my-husband-and-i-are-equal-partners-why-does-he-get-so-much-more-credit-for-parenting/

https://www.npr.org/2014/07/08/329804378/why-arent-men-asked-if-they-can-have-it-allhttps://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/

https://www.scarymommy.com/dads-get-more-praise-doing-everyday-things

https://www.tlc.com/parenting/dads-are-happier-than-moms--study-says--but-its-not-that-simple

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